Quotes from her book/autobiography:
Secrets I've promised to keep are safe with me...secrets that have been entrusted to me will eventually die with me.
We all have our share of secrets and dirty laundry, but for me personally, i feel the sooner I learn to relax and laugh about them, the sooner I can enjoy the relief that comes with that liberation and release. I see writing this book as a process of washing my laundry and hanging it out in the sun and fresh air to dry. A sort of emotional cleansing.
Fire can can give wings of courage, compassion, and devotion. Fire is obstinate and heady and absolutely not subtle. It is seen as the force burning inside us, giving us an iron willpower to go for our goals, bestowing upon us the passion to do it with all of ourselves, resulting in the honor and freedom to do it without backstabbing and with an open face.
We need the bad to appreciate the goo, and vice versa.
There's no getting off life's roller coaster once it's rolling, so you mightas well try to understand it as best as you can so you might flow with the curves and actually enjoy the ride.
Now that I have a midlife level of maturity and experience, it's as though the past is allowed to be part of who I am now and not just of who I was, as if it was something I didn't want to be associated with anymore. But I knew deep down that those experiences were imprinted on me in the grooves of my memory, in the very formation of my character, and at permanent stamps on my emotions.
Ultimately, I am responsible for how I live my life now, and what I make out of it. In fact, I am actually grateful for what I'vre gone through and wouldn't change a thing---although I admit I wouldn't want to live it over again, either. Once was enough.
Too innocent for this world. A good person put in a bad place.
Learn how to make something out of nothing.
I'd speak to time very deliberately, asking it to please pass as quickly as possible so all this could just be over with and behind me; it would tell me not to worry because it promised to keep moving forward. [...] I knew that tomorrow really was another day, that change meant "different," and even though different didn't necessarily mean better, change was a relief in itself.
It can be difficult for a teenage girl to read a man's sexual intentions, or to recognize when a man is about to cross a boundary with her, sometimes until she's already in a tight spot.
[talking about her parent's death] I did not know that it was humanly possible to hurt so viscerally and feel so empty.
I believe that ultimately our Creator has it all planned out perfectly, whether I agree with the plan or not. Regardless whether I'm aware of what that plan is, it is not for me to alter it in any way, and I would therefore not want to experience unnecessary suffering and anxiety over potentially devastating information I cannot change.
Out with the old, in with the new, I thought, was life's cruel way of cycling and recycling.
I was never one to take personal relationships lightly, and casual affairs were not my style. Not to sound like a prude, but not only did I never sleep my way to anything, I very distinctly avoided it. I simply was not interested in flirting with men as a pastime or for any other reason other than have a meaningful relationship.
When you are starting out, you usually don't have much choice. I wisely tempered my attitude to avoid being viewed as a troublemaker. [...] My attitude was to view this as the first step of a long journey. [...] So for as long as I could without getting myself in trouble, I kept my disappointment, and my opinions, to myself.
People usually dream of reaching thetop of Mount Everest, not navigating the descent. Consequently, the majority of serious accidents occur on the way down.
I've spent years beng overly attentive to how people perceived me, at all time. I'm less concerned in this regard now than I was even five years ago, however. Not that I would say I don't care what people think; [...] especially now that gravity is having its way with me. But I am more relaxed about criticism and sense I'm less affected by the things I cannot control.
I was meant to be a soldier and just stick it out in this prison of exhausting loneliness.
I should have leaned on my family at that point in my life, but I wouldn't allow myself to display what I considered weakness on my part. Being the self-sufficient, strong one was how I'd come to view myself, and I wasn't about to tarnish their image of me. My image image of me [...] I did not want anyone to hear my weak, pathetic breakdown.
I saw it then as well, but it was a blur, as I was standing too close to see it clearly.
We all derive a measure of satisfaction just frm being self-sufficient and feeling competent in the world.
Sincerity can be frustratingly hard to find and is something to be valued.
Most things that I do in my life I do because I enjoy the process, not because I think there is going to be a payoff at the end. The reward isin the experience itself.
"When the art of question meets the art of the Lie": I can't say I find it healthy to live life being suspicious all the time, but you do need to pay attention and keep a reasonable sense of awareness to protect yourself against anyone trying to take advantage of you.
Be more poactive to weaknesses in any relationship you value, recognize your responsibility in keeping gaps and empty, vulnerable areas filled with communication, understanding, and awereness, and you will improve your chances of surviving unnecessary breaks. Stay in touch and you stay connected.
Whether it be in business, family, friendship, or marriage, it's so important to keep your eyes open for cons, liars, and cheats who will comfort you with one hand on your shoulder and rob you with the other.
People who are not concerned with trying to protect the ones they've hurt often protect themselves by avoiding unpleasant confrontations.
Best not leave everlasting proof of your temporary insanity - Jane Fonda
So at the risk of makin a fool of myslf or bein judge for indulging such vulnerable thoughts and emotions, I feel liberated in being able to laugh at myself, to laugh even at what once made me cry, to be able to say that I've rown and progress towad a new way of looking at things.
I wanted desperately to turn my brain off, but I just could not find the switch.
The situation you are in may not be in your control, but you right to feel the pain from the affliction is.
A friend id someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you hav forgotten the words.
When you've been married for so long, you don't know how to be alone in life anymore.
Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed,to those who stil believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though the've been hurt before.
Nobody can go back and start a new egining, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. - Maria Robinson
Rise and shine to another perfect day in your beautiful life.
Money can improve the quality of life in some respects, but by no means is it wise to believe it can actully buy happiness.
Howevr, I don't believe success belongs only to society's elite of the best educated, most privileged, or lucky. Success does, however, belong to anyone willing to earn it, and who has the talent and ability to be there.
Regardless of what status you were born into in this world, human nature has equipped you with the skills to survive.
Note: For the most romantic and life encouraging words, you will have to read the last two chapters. I promise it would not be a waste of time.
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